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Thursday, August 10, 2023Y
C&B - Ashton (Scammer)

 25 Jul 2023 - matched.

Cancerian
Malaysian from KL, PR in SG
Family in KL (parents doting 5 years younger sister, pharmacist)
Bought and live alone, opposite Westgate (most likely J Gateway condo)
Work @ Shopee as a marketer, 9 year in Shopee, 4 year in MY, 5th year in SG
Job comprise working with copywriter, designer, ux, ui, analyst, team of 39
Partner selection/criteria - stable, filial, honest, loyal, tender, loving, caring, family orientated, willing to settle down and commit long term r/n, good in giving good comfort, willing to stick thru thick & thin, communication
Dislike - drinking, not coming home at night, mahjong, gamble, surround by guys, no games, MIA, halfway give up and waste time
Hobbies - eat, cook, swim (every wkends), gym, shop, golf

2 weeks since we chatted. Based on how the convo is going, it seems like our convo is coming to an end. Shall see how it goes. Anyway, am thankful for this interaction and it gives me a little spice within this 2 week. It also gave me a little anxiety too as I got worried, panicky and keep checking the app. Expectation build and disappointment sinks. Perhaps it is time to come back to neutral and that is how life is. Thanks for the experience, it was a pleasant one.

14 Aug 2023 Updates

I was wrong. Apparently he was satisfied with our convo and decided I was serious and decided to move forward by providing me with his phone number. Anyway, I added him and initiated a chat on WhatsApp yst. He is quite chatty and have been trying to initial calls to further understand each other (as he claims). 

16 Aug 2023 Updates

Got an email last night re his profile have been reported due to violation of CMB's community guidelines, cautious me kick in to be careful and got a good night sleep :) When on to read about the guideline and yes he did "violate" it as he provided me his phone number (he did it by spelling it out 4 digit in 2 separate message). After much struggle this morning, my self perseverance succeeded and I wasn't the 1st person to make contact. He msg me when he end his morning meeting and headed for lunch. He mentioned that he is heading to ION again for lunch and i received a photo showing Jumbo ION entrance. No ideal why I did even bother to google but oh well I did and guess what - apparently this outlet is "supposedly" to be under renovation. Despite me questioning him, he brush it off and just say how can it be under reno while he is there having his lunch. I even went to the extend and tried calling the outlet and the automatic also confirm my suspicious that it is under reno. Anyway, let's see how this story continues. 

Oh yah by the way i tried to dig deeper into his whatsapp profile, apparently his whatsapp status "Dream came true" was stated as 20 January 1970. Hmmmm this is another red light.

16 Aug 2023 Final updates and closure to another chapter

Despite my last msg last night, there isn't any reply after. Guess scammer got bored with me haha. Oh well, just another bite the dust. Thank god for past experience and due diligence that I managed to dodge another bullet. Pat pat Alcina, you are good and deserve love, it just ain't the right time :)


ends at 4:59 PM

Saturday, August 5, 2023Y
Close of a chapter

Time for a closure.
During skates, acquaintance that Bboy know via his volunteer work came across us. WL joking saying Bboy should introduce me to his acquaintance. Anyway the conversation came to a junction where BBoy commented something and I replied "I am not that bad leh" and WL commented and BBoy agreed that "You are lol" . Following, BBoy added the comment "You are fat, told you to slim down".

Hearing this conversation, the reality hits me and my self esteem got a hard hit. Since young, body image have always terrorist me. The social norms of being slim and pretty have haunt me and follows me growing up. This hits me even harden during puberty and worse when it comes to the age of dating and romantic relationship.

Honestly I don't have issue making female friends but for all time, it was only me having crushes and none of these crushes flowers into a romantic relationship. Seeing my close friends getting in and out of bgf, I envy and am jealous. 

1 puppy love who in turn become my best friend boyfriend during lower secondary. Another puppy love cos I admire the guy intelligence. 1 who treated me as a "sister" where we text daily and do spend quite some time together. Bboy friend who I thought was a good potential and the main traits thst attract me to him was his kindness
However, the comment on top actually reveals another face of him and perhaps this is the sign/revelation that I was looking/seeking that just cuts all hopes and seriously remind me not to bear any hopes and face reality.

This hit my self esteem and confidence really hard but I told myself. If I slim down, it is for me and never for another party. It is time I put myself in the first place. If 1 can't accept me for who I am, it is not that bad to be alone. I just need to learn to cope with the loneliness. 

ends at 3:10 PM